Being assigned a day of honor on a calendar, like so many well-intentioned things a Mother endures, can become a gauntlet of emotions for women who didn’t carry to term, who relinquished their child at birth, who were judged as unfit, who lost a child, who are no longer the guardian, or who are...
Though these two emotions get a bad rap in our modern world, the healthful upside of Desire and Pride is essential to building our Well Being. Hardly anyone grows up in modern society with a clear, clean understanding of the role Desire and Pride play in building an excellent life. Let’s begin to change...
“Always Do Your Best” is a deed-based agreement. The previous three agreements of The Four Agreements showed us how to: Take control over our words, voiced and thought (Be Impeccable with Your Word) Detangle ourselves from the words and actions of others that previously triggered us (Don’t Take Anything Personally) Ask for and provide...
Whether we are a Pollyanna or a seasoned pessimist, our assumptions often work against us. Rather than Make No Assumptions, a better description for this third of the Four Agreements might be “Assume Repeatedly, but Never Act on an Assumption Without Further Investigation and/or Clarification”. In the animal kingdom we are vulnerable creatures, and...
The Saga of Domestication We came into this world without words, only senses and intense needs. From these, we formed mild to strong opinions, which were expressed with facial expressions and body language. We smiled or howled, reached out or withdrew. Our vulnerable being was entrusted to the care of grown people who had...
The following post is this blog author’s musings on Don Miguel Ruiz’s First Agreement- “I am Impeccable with my Word”, as detailed in Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements . “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, But words will never hurt me.” What is your reaction to this childhood rhyme? I remember all too...
The quality of our human relationships are impacted all the live long day, for good or ill, by the presence or absence of four simple, yet deeply impacting, agreements that were introduced to the world by Don Miguel Ruiz in his book, The Four Agreements. Be Impeccable with Your Word. Don’t Take Anything Personally....